A Challenge for You Today

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Cartier Carat | Photography by: Angie Garcia | In partnership with Bloomingdales. Fragrance selected and purchased by me. All opinions are my own.

Today, I want to talk about how we uplift one another and I’m going to use an analogy. I LOVE analogies, and my friends poke a bit of fun at me with them. I probably use them a little too much and run with them when they don’t quite work. But this one works. I promise.

Listen, we’ve got to stop uplifting people by their titles. It’s like telling a rainbow they are great because they are a rainbow.

This is when you think, “And now I see why your friends say that…

But when we uplift people by their titles, we neglect what makes them unique. We ignore their differences and almost diminish those lights in them that make them stronger, bolder, braver, and stronger. We don’t do this intentionally- in fact, it is the opposite. Titles are great, they are comfortable and create a sense of confidence. Of course, you want to tell your strong girlfriend she is a fabulous nurse, law student, or mother. However, today, I hope to change your mind on that!

When your girlfriend is telling you she has a lot on her plate and you say, “Oh, Sarah! You’re a fabulous mother, teacher, wife, and friend. Don’t feel stressed, you’ve got this!

I do this all the time, thinking I’m helping. But then when it is done to me, I smile and say, “Thank you” but inwardly I feel, “Yeah…that’s why I’m exhausted. What if I stop? What if I stopped hosting this or doing that? Would you still think I’m great?

I think to empower one another as women, we’ve got to dig a little deeper and look to those unique lights. Why is a rainbow stunning? It is stunning because of the circumstances that created it. It is breathtaking because we can see each unique hue. The dispersion of light comes together to create something that is so beautiful, we stand in awe as children and as adults.

I rarely discuss fragrance on the blog. A fragrance is personal, not always universal. That is until I smelled one diamond-inspired fragrance.

I partnered with Bloomingdales to chat about fragrance, and I selected a scent even I was surprised by, Cartier Carat.

Cartier’s new scent is inspired by the seven colors of a rainbow shown through a diamond, hence the name “Carat.” Fitting for Cartier, no? Mathilde Laurent, Cartier’s in-house perfumer said, “When the light enters the prism of the diamond, it makes the light explode in seven colors of the rainbow. It’s kind of magic. This is what is so wonderful. In fact, diamonds create a rainbow just for you.”

Each hue from the rainbow represents a flower: ylang-ylang for green, honeysuckle for orange, violet for violet. You get the idea. I assumed it might be overpowering, as I’m not always keen on a floral scent. Instead? It’s absolutely brilliant. I hate to call a fragrance perfected, but that’s what I would do in this instance. It’s not overpowering for work, yet mysterious enough for date night.

But despite the fact it smells like the most divine bouquet {or diamond  😉 } your guy might never dream of ordering you, the message behind the fragrance is why I chose this scent, and it’s why I wanted to share it with you all.

It’s about celebrating your inner light. Because all of those inner strengths we have, when woven together, create beautiful titles. Mentor. Doctor. CEO. Boutique owner. Book-Club Host. Volunteer Coordinator. But the heart of these people behind the title?  The hearts are filled with so many different spectrums we must acknowledge, too. And when we look to our groups of friends and we see these diverse titles, it makes pretty great circles. But, the titles aren’t what empowers us- our inner lights do.

So, I want to give you a challenge today. Look to a friend that needs to be uplifted. Take 5 minutes and tell her exactly why she is the coolest, sweetest, boldest, girl you know. Look at each ray which makes up her rainbow. Tell her she has a sense of compassion you’ve yet to ever find in another person, tell her she’s got a bravery you admire and tell her that her laugh is infectious. Take away the tasks and the titles and the things we typically spot like a rainbow. Find those rays, I promise they are so easy when you look!

And if you pop in Bloomingdales for a fun afternoon, try a bit of Cartier Carat on your wrist. If you’re like me, you’ll keep it in your purse 24/7 because it is so lovely. And if you are a better woman than I, you’ll gift it to a friend you know deserves to hear why she’s got the most beautiful light within!

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  1. Heather Bise wrote:

    Hi Katey,

    Love reading your blog, was curious to know where the pink dress you are wearing in this post is from!

    Thanks so much and have a wonderful day!

    Published 03 Oct 18Reply
    • Katey wrote:

      Of course! 🙂 Here you go. Thank you so much, Heather! xo, Katey

      Published 04 Oct 18Reply
      • Melanie Johnson wrote:

        I can’t see the link for your dress. Please help! Thank you.

        Published 07 Oct 18Reply
        • Katey wrote:

          Hi Melanie! Just click where I say “Here” is the link and it should take you to the dress. Let me know if you have any issues! xo, Katey

          Published 07 Oct 18Reply
  2. Laura Leigh wrote:

    What an awesome topic for discussion and one to bring to light! I really appreciate you sharing this. An awesome reminder to dig deeper when talking to people!

    xo Laura Leigh
    Louella Reese

    Published 03 Oct 18Reply
  3. The scent sounds luscious! I wonder if I can get it here in Hong Kong 🙂

    Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog

    Published 03 Oct 18Reply
  4. Lizzie wrote:

    I love your message in today’s post, Katie! It is always nice to highlight positive and meaningful traits in our friends and family…sweet words can change someone’s entire day!

    Would you mind sharing details on the pink dress you are wearing in this post? I love it! xoxoxo!

    Published 03 Oct 18Reply
    • Katey wrote:

      Thank you so much, Lizzie! 🙂 Of course! Here is my dress.

      Published 04 Oct 18Reply
  5. Gabby wrote:

    Ah I love this! I always try to be conscientious to not just say what someone is great at, or what role they excel in… but how they’re great as individuals. Sometimes it’s so easy to compliment someone on being a great mum, professional or whatever it may be, but it’s also kind of only skimming the surface of who people really are! Thank you for sharing. 🙂

    Published 03 Oct 18Reply
  6. These pictures are beautiful and come with an amazing message! Love this post.
    xx, Merritt
    The Style Scribe

    Published 03 Oct 18Reply
  7. Katey,
    This post is genius and why I continue reading your blog on the daily. Calling my bestie now to shine a light on what makes her so wonderful! 😉


    Published 03 Oct 18Reply
  8. Nicollette wrote:

    Katey- you are always so full of inspirational words! Thank you for the sweet “challenge”, but also the reminder As a new momma with a full-time job, it’s so easy to credit or discredit all you can/cannot get to daily. It’s refreshing AND needed to hear a message like yours. Can’t wait to spread the love with my girlfriends &co-workers. Have a great weekend!

    Published 05 Oct 18Reply
  9. Roxy wrote:

    Aww I loved this!

    Published 05 Oct 18Reply