Wedding Planning Tips

Whether you just got a shiny little ring on your perfectly polished finger or a wedding is about 2 more boyfriends and a few years away, knowing what to do when it happens can be take a huge level of stress away!

We are less than 2 months away until Paul and I say, “I do,” and I thought it would be a great idea to share what I wish I would have known 6 months ago! This is definitely one of those, “Do as I say, not as I do,” scenarios! 😉




1. Hire [some kind of] A Planner.

I did do this so I get a few points in Bridal Monopoly for that one and it’s honestly one of the most crucial decisions you will make. Even if you hire a planner, you’ll still be involved 100% and getting to make all the decisions. If it isn’t in your budget and you aren’t sure if one would even be helpful, consider hiring a family friend. Hire someone to do the stress work. Maybe she isn’t a traditional planner in the sense she creates your theme/tablescape, but hire her as a coordinator. She will coordinate the schedule day of and make sure everything is on schedule throughout the whole wedding process.

My wedding planner meets with us every week to go over what each of our to do lists includes and she does the work that I’m honestly just not able to do while working, such as calling to double check times with vendors, etc. If you want a rustic wedding theme, your wedding planner can help you find barn wedding venues Roanoke.

I would cut my budget in any area to make sure I had her because it has allowed me to truly enjoy the process and soak up these moments with my family and Paul. Instead of freaking out about calling my baker because their shop closes at 6 I’m able to freak out over a silly detail that I can’t decide between. It’s the better of the two worlds, let me tell ya! 😉

2. Invest in The Other Planner

You will live out of your paper planner, so go ahead and buy yourself a new one. I always use one from Graphic Image and the ones for 2016 are ready! This is such a great gift for a newly engaged friend with her married initials! The leather binding makes sure it will stay looking new and the pages don’t bleed through. I’m so picky about paper planners having ink bleed through, but this quality is amazing. You can get yours here! It’s the planner featured above in photos! 🙂

3. Don’t Make Any Decisions Your First Week

The first week you are engaged can be a whirlwind. You’re on your phone constantly calling people and you keep spouting off honeymoon ideas. Every decision [except for the date!] that was made the first week ended up being changed because Paul and I honestly were so giddy we didn’t even know what we wanted. We went back and forth between getting married in Paris with 10 people, a ranch with 100 and a black tie wedding with 600. We ended up going with a black tie wedding and that decision wasn’t even set in stone until a few weeks later! Just enjoy your time because you want to have a clear mind when you do make decisions.

4. People Eat Your Budget

Flowers. Your gown. The DJ. Rentals. Those don’t really vary whether you have a small, intimate wedding or a large bash. I’ve seen the pricing for a wedding of 75 and a wedding of 700, and to be honest things just vary a few hundred dollars. What really eats up your budget? People. If numbers are a worry, just create a benchmark! Lauren Conrad said she wasn’t inviting people they hadn’t had a meal with in the past two years. Give you and your fiancé’ something to go by, that way it’s fair across the board.

5. One Thank You A Day

I think one of the most therapeutic parts of your engagement can be thank you notes. I’m a stickler for them. I love a good old handwritten card and think it is the most eloquent gift you can give. To take your time, sit down, write and express your gratitude is something we are always too much in a rush to do! There are so many parts of wedding planning that can make you want to pack up and elope, but when you take the time to thank someone you realize what this process is about: sharing your love with all the ones you love, you know it is worth it. About a month ago I started to make sure I wrote one thank you note a day. It can seem trivial until you start having showers, but even thanking your parents, your bridesmaids, your fiancé for something small they did can not only decrease your stress level, but allow them to know how blessed you feel. I know that I may not always show how happy I am [when I’m freaking out over making sure everyone fits at the head table, when we are 2 people too many!] but deep down this is such a joyous time! So once you can, just be sure to write one thank you note a day. This also allows you to not have to do them all one afternoon when you have forgotten about them! Remember to send your shower thank you notes no later than 6 weeks after your shower! I’m all about these for a more modern, monogrammed touch!


This was the exact timeline we used to plan our wedding and if you choose to plan in 6 months or less you are totally fine! You have to  be more flexible on venue dates, but this list can be crunched down! 🙂

Most importantly, just enjoy your fiancé and let your family and friends stress about things like matching chargers to tablecloths. The thing you will stress the most about is not hurting people’s feelings [if you are like me!] and that can sometimes just be inevitable. Not everyone will feel included. Not everyone will like your venue choice. And not everyone will be happy with each shower date. Those things happen and the most important thing is that you are able to come together and celebrate your love with all the people close to you!

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  1. Alyssa wrote:

    I didn’t hire a wedding planner, but I chose a venue and a coordinator AT the venue who came highly recommended. She was INCREDIBLE and handled so much for me! And I also created a ton of spreadsheets to track everything – that way it was all written down and I knew what was due when, so I didn’t need to stress about any of the details.


    Published 03 Aug 15Reply
  2. Katey, this post is SO helpful, thank you! I got engaged in July and really don’t know where to start with planning! Thank you for sharing this post to help me get an idea of the basics! I would love to see more wedding posts!!
    Thank you!!

    Published 03 Aug 15Reply
  3. Ann wrote:

    I’m already married, but this is a great post and so spot on! Wishing you all the very, very best in your marriage! You look like a very happy couple whenever I see you in pics.

    WHERE is that ring box from please???!!!

    Published 03 Aug 15Reply
    • Katey wrote:

      Hi!! It is called a Mrs Box! 🙂 They are on instagram and I think they come up if you google!

      Published 04 Aug 15Reply
  4. Such helpful info to know! Also love the planners you included in your widget! <3

    Published 04 Aug 15Reply
  5. Callie wrote:

    LOVE this post!!! I just got engaged on July 7th, and have been CLUELESS as to where to begin!! My wedding is going to be over a year away, so I am excited to be able to have time to relax, and plan my plan!! Thanks Katey!!

    Published 04 Aug 15Reply
  6. Eleni wrote:

    Not that I am getting married any time soon, but posts like these are so helpful for the bride to be. When my friend was getting married she had such a hard time picking whom to invite to her wedding. The other issue I find lots of couples have to deal with is their parents wanting to invite their friends or friends that they feel obliged to invite for some odd reason. I always say, it is your wedding and you want people to be there that mean something to you or have in some way impacted your life. Was it hard for you guys to pick your guests too?

    Eleni xo –

    Published 04 Aug 15Reply
    • Katey wrote:

      Oh that was so hard! We couldn’t really decide the size of the wedding we wanted so that made it difficult! We’d say, “Oh if they come the wedding need to be larger.” It’s hard because you don’t know all your parents friends and then my mom would say, “Well I don’t know your friends.” At the end of the day we just decided the more the merrier and we would never regret having someone, but we might regret not having them! But I LOVE the dinner rule if you have a small wedding! I think that’s the perfect way to make decisions! 🙂

      Published 04 Aug 15Reply
  7. Katie wrote:

    Hey Katey!

    Did you by chance find a way to print that wedding timeline? It’s not working very well for me! It prints in a long skinny column. I need a good wall-hanger where I can check things off! This one is perfect since it’s so simple. Thanks!


    Published 05 Aug 15Reply
    • Katey wrote:

      Hey girl! I didn’t print it, I wrote it all out for my planner! 🙂

      Published 05 Aug 15Reply